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Building Trust in a Relationship

Building Trust in a Relationship

We talk a lot in about trust in relationships. We all know it's important. But it's SO important that--as Dr. John Gottman’s research shows--we could accurately say that lack of trust is at the root of virtually all relationship problems. The questions at stake are:...

Fairness in Relationships: How to Get Past Score-keeping

Fairness in Relationships: How to Get Past Score-keeping

Countless relationship problems come from perceptions of unfairness. It may be about housework, affection, or even communication styles. If one partner feels like things aren’t fair, resentment builds and erodes the flow of love. I’m a big advocate of keeping things...

Projection in Relationships: Stop it from ruining your connection

Projection in Relationships: Stop it from ruining your connection

“The particular egoic patterns that you react to most strongly in others and misperceive as their identity tend to be the same patterns that are also in you, but that you are unable or unwilling to detect within yourself.” ~Eckhart Tolle from A New Earth Does this...

Holiday Stress: 5 Easy Steps to Protect Your Relationship

Holiday Stress: 5 Easy Steps to Protect Your Relationship

The holidays can be notoriously stressful. Couples with busy lives have to juggle multiple and often-conflicting obligations. There are presents to buy, decorations to hang, and events to attend or prepare for.  It's supposed to be fun, but many people can't wait for...

Relationship Killers: 4 Things to Eliminate and 5 Alternatives

Relationship Killers: 4 Things to Eliminate and 5 Alternatives

Have you ever been in a relationship that seemed like “the one” but then later-- in spite of great love and good intentions--it died? It’s tragic that potentially exceptional relationships are thwarted by old habits and behaviors. So if you are in a relationship that...

Reflective Listening: A Deeper Look

Reflective Listening: A Deeper Look

Usually when we imagine good communication, we think about how to most effectively (and without harm) get across our point. We plan what we want to say, how we want to say it, and get clear on our intentions. That's because we know that listening is important. I mean,...

Healthy Relationships: How to Achieve a State of Unity

Healthy Relationships: How to Achieve a State of Unity

Entering into unity with your partner--what Dr. Charlotte Kasl calls “the usness place”--is the 4th and most evolved stage of healthy relationships. Only after we have achieved honesty with ourselves, expressed ourselves with integrity, and fully received our partner,...

Receiving Your Partner: 3 Ways to Transform through Acceptance

Receiving Your Partner: 3 Ways to Transform through Acceptance

Over the last two weeks, I have been laying out the 4 pillars of truly healthy relationships. The first two pillars are Self-Knowledge and Integrated Self-Expression. Once we have been honest with ourselves and our partners, we are ready to deepen our intimacy with...

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