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Household Chores: 10 Ways to Solve the Distribution of Labor Problem
The topic of household chores is the second biggest sticking point in domestic relationships behind money problems. Distribution of labor in our home brings up issues of power, equality, and differences in lifestyle. This is largely a gender-based issue, with the vast...
Extramarital Affairs: 5 steps to healing
In my last blog called Extramarital Affairs: 7 Risk Factors, I shared some of the common characteristics found in couples at risk for infidelity. These are helpful in preventing an affair in your relationship. But if you've already been affected by an affair--and are...
Extramarital Affairs: 7 Risk Factors
Extramarital affairs can be devastating to everyone involved, most of all the cheated partner. It's estimated that roughly 30 to 60% of all married individuals in the U.S. will engage in infidelity at some point during their marriage. What's disturbing is that affairs...
Hypersensitivity: 7 ways to handle complaints for the sensitive person
Do you immediately brace yourself when your partner expresses concern over something in your relationship? Or prepare to fight back, whether you are under attack or not? If so, you could be making it much harder to communicate, grow and deal with issues in the...
Coping with Anger: 5 Ways to Make it Work For You
Anger is a loaded topic. Depending on your upbringing and personal experience, you may view anger as empowering or dangerous; righteous or toxic; regressive or motivating. I sometimes get mad at my kids (for being kids). One of two things happen: I either act on it...
Am I Projecting? Ask Yourself This One Question
Have you ever thought about your partner: "The way he/she describe me sounds an awful lot like her/him!" That is an example of projection, and I have news for you. You do it too! Everyone has this blind spot, and it blocks connection and growth like nothing else! It...
Communication Problems: How to Nix Them in 3 Simple Steps
Communication problems happen to everyone—casual work mates, friends, or family members. It’s inevitable since no two people wear the same interpretive lenses, and sometimes we fail to see the intention behind a communication. Many times it’s a simple misunderstanding...
Emotional Transparency: How to be honest without causing problems
Regardless of which approach you take to repairing your relationship, there is one fundamental requirement that can’t be avoided. If you want to connect authentically with your partner, there needs to be a commitment to emotional transparency, or habitual...
How to Get That “In Love” Feeling Back
Do you feel like that “in love” feeling is gone forever? I mean, you love your partner but just don’t really feel it? Even in great relationships, it’s possible to lose the inspiration or desire to connect the way you used to. It’s not really fun anymore and the...
Relationship Control Issues: Are You Too Controlling?
Have you ever been accused of being too controlling by your partner? Are you certain you know the best way to do things? Do you think you are usually "right" in the relationship? If you can answer yes to these three questions, you may be too controlling. But take...