Communication Problems: How to Nix Them in 3 Simple Steps

Communication problems happen to everyone—casual work mates, friends, or family members. It’s inevitable since no two people wear the same interpretive lenses, and sometimes we fail to see the intention behind a communication. Many times it’s a simple misunderstanding that can be cleared up with a brief conversation. But too often in close, committed relationships communication […]

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Emotional Transparency: How to be honest without causing problems

Regardless of which approach you take to repairing your relationship, there is one fundamental requirement that can’t be avoided. If you want to connect authentically with your partner, there needs to be a commitment to emotional transparency, or habitual truth-telling. Now when you hear this you may cringe. Many people think that being honest all the time […]

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Fairness in Relationships: How to Get Past Score-keeping

Fairness in Relationships

Countless relationship problems come from perceptions of unfairness. It may be about housework, affection, or even communication styles. If one partner feels like things aren’t fair, resentment builds and erodes the flow of love. I’m a big advocate of keeping things fair and really hate inequity. But the whole concept of fairness can be problematic when we begin to […]

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Expressing Yourself with Integrity: 6 Ways to Communicate with Respect and Honesty

Expressing your true self is required for an honest, close relationship. (You must have a good relationship with yourself first–see my blog on getting real with yourself ). Once you are in full awareness of your real feelings and desires, the next step towards healthy relationships is integrated self-expression. What is integrated self-expression? It means that you communicate outwardly […]

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