You are in a Committed Relationship But Really Struggling
Each of us wants to feel known and loved for who we really are. So why do relationships have to be so dang hard?!
If you’ve been with somebody for awhile, you know the challenges that come up.
You get stuck. You feel painfully disconnected, misunderstood, and super frustrated. This leads you to:
- Have negative thoughts about your partner (a lot)
- Doubt yourself
- Fight with your partner
- Act in ways you regret
- Feel confused about your role in the conflict
- Question your relationship
- Fantasize about leaving (but don’t really want to).
I get it. I’ve been there in my own relationship, and have come out the other side. I’m also a relationship coach and licensed therapist, so I know that it is truly possible to change your relationship from the inside out, and create new ways of being together–no matter how long you have been together.
Why Relationships Fail
The top two reasons why relationships fail are 1) Limiting subconscious beliefs that sabotage your intentions, and 2) Failure to keep the proper ratio of positive-to-negative interactions.
Most people come to relationships with default programming and expectations based on the past. These old filters skew even the purest of conscious intentions.
Think about it. We can have all the information we need to make a change and know exactly what to do–but something always pulls us off track.
This struggle is because of one simple thing: subconscious programming.
The subconscious mind processes 40 million bits of information per second. It’s responsible for no less than 90% of our current reality. We all (without even knowing) seek out situations, people, and behaviors that will confirm our subconscious beliefs.
If we have negative expectations of ourselves and others, it’s hard to remain in a state of connection and love for very long.
Another reason relationships fail is that couples spend more energy trying to fix the negative things in a relationship than they do on expanding the positive. We create what we focus on. So trying to fix things (that maybe can’t even be fixed) has the unwanted effect of getting stuck in problem-patterns.
Expanding on the positive is a lot easier said than done. Fortunately, there are proven ways to restore this the positive-to-negative ratio and create a healthy, loving, AND long-lasting relationship.
Change Your Relationship By Changing Yourself
I’m here to tell you that if you want to come back from the brink of ruin in your relationship, it really does start with you. (You may think, Why does it have to be up to me? To that I say because you are the one reading this right now).
We can only change our relationships by changing ourselves.
How to do this? By getting your subconscious mind on board–and systematically following proven steps to expanding the positive base of your relationship–you will EASILY be able to:
- Communicate authentically and with integrity
- Be seen and loved for who you really are
- Find freedom from old programming
- Love and forgive your partner
- Express yourself fully
- Create a greater spiritual connection to your truest self.
- Lay a solid foundation for other aspects of your life—health, career, and play.
These changes seem too good to be true, but are actually already within you.
As Tom Ford said: “Whether you think you can or whether you think you can’t, you are right.”